For the last year I’ve had two major projects: writing my novel and removing negativity from my life. It’s no coincidence that these two goals coincide. Negative influences were coming at me from all angles: home, work, the environment, even myself. I’ve spent the last year actively reducing negative objects, habits, people, and thoughts from my life to increase positivity and productivity. It wasn’t surprising that a lot of negativity was leaking into my life from social networks like Facebook and WordPress.
As much as I’d love to just get rid of Facebook, I need it to keep in touch with relatives and friends who are far away, so I reduce the time I spend on it and utilize the “hide” option. This reduces the stress from negative, religious, or political post that seem to come through the feed on a daily–even hourly–basis. I also stopped following people who have been a consistent cause of stress.
Tackling my paper trail to remove negative clutter took days. My WordPress purge took a minute; I only removed two people, but I stopped following both of them for the same reason. It wasn’t because I got tired of seeing pictures of their cats and kids, or because they’d all but turned their writing platform into a baking blog with their cupcake recipes. Although I don’t encourage the latter, I unfollowed these blogs due to negative content.
One of these bloggers I initially started following because his post were humorous and fun. His post stopped being fun or even funny about five post ago when I noticed all he does is insult other bloggers and writers. Why would someone who uses a blog as a platform for writing spend so much time insulting fellow writers and potential readers? If he wrote a book, I wouldn’t buy it simply because he’s a boastful and pompous narcissist. I think it’s ironic and a tad hypocritical that he spent an entire post criticizing the content that other bloggers write about when all he writes are rants. How is that quality content? Author interviews, book reviews, writing tips, and GoodReads list risk being boring, but I’ll read them any day over a negative, self-righteous rant.
Why was I following him anyway? I have estranged relatives. If I don’t allow just anyone in my personal life, why am I allowing them in my social networks. His posts weren’t helpful, informative, or even fun anymore. If anything, all I got out of reading his last post was a bad mood. I actually dreaded seeing him appear in my feed. Just like my mile-high paper trail, French fries, and bad memories, I just had to …
Maybe he’s a negative person. We’re all inclined to be due to our brain’s built in negativity bias, which makes us more susceptible to negative feelings. But despite being negatively hard-wired, I’m a positive person. Whether I lose 20 dollars or a loved one, I know life comes with pain and let downs, and you just have to look on the bright side.
To wrap this up, I just wanted to thank those of you who write positive, informative, and helpful content. I will continue to follow you, and hope you continue to follow me. Thanks to you I now look forward to reading my feed again.
I may not have as many followers as the other guy, but I’ve earned and will continue earning my followers with positive, helpful content. In case you are wanting to connect with other positive people, please check out these blogs that I follow. I’m sorry if I forget anyone. These are just a few notables who appear regularly in my feed.
Out of the well http://awrestlingwriter.wordpress.com/
Cate Russell-Cole http://cateartios.wordpress.com/
Jean Cogdell http://jeancogdell.com/
Kristen Lamb http://warriorwriters.wordpress.com/
David Ben-Ami http://fictionallday.wordpress.com/
Kylie Betzner http://litchicblog.wordpress.com/
Mishka Jenkins http://awriterslifeformeblog.wordpress.com/
Ellen Brock http://thewriteditor.wordpress.com/
I want to hear from you. Who are the individuals you follow who give you a constant source of inspiration?